For all their joy, weddings are sometimes charged with potentially explosive situations. These may be the feelings of divorced parents, step-parents and children, either yours or your groom's.
you can, observe one rule at all time, try to work together. Include
the children in all appropriate prenuptial planning and festivities,
but be sensitive to their reactions. No matter what the relationship
is with the former spouse, be as amicable as possible in discussing
any wedding plans involving the children.
Be sure to include the children in the receiving line, even if they did not participate in the actual ceremony. Introduce them in their old and new roles. For example, "This is John's son and my step son, Michael." Have formal pictures taken of the new parent and new stepchildren alone. Those photos may later be a treasured gift.
As important as it is that the children understand that the new parent is in a sense marrying them, too, it is also important that they respect the new relationship between the two adults. So, if you take a honeymoon trip right after the wedding, take it alone. Plan a special family trip later, but reserve the honeymoon just for you and your groom.
the children will be living with you and your groom, include them
in appropriate decisions about furnishing and decorating their new
home. The china pattern you choose isn't their concern, but the
color of bedspread you buy for their room definitely is. Be prepared
for some tears, especially if the children are small. Probably the
most important thing you can do is to avoid making any assumptions...
about anything. Be open and communicate with them. Including the
children in the nuptial ceremony can enhance the wedding and lend
a firm base to your new, blended family.
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