COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS: Be open
and honest if you're feeling upset. Tell your fiance
or family what's bothering you. Don't try to keep
stressful feelings to yourself . . . they may transfer
to something or someone else. Take positive action
whenever possible. Worrying never solved a probm.
SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES: Don't assume
you have to do everything yourself. This idea is
old-fashioned, as well as exhausting. Ask your fiance
to go over the Groom's Checklist in this book and
handle as many of those planning functions as possible.
FOLLOW A PLANNING TIMETABLE: It will
give you the secure feeling that you're not forgetting
something crucial.
HAVE A SYSTEM: Try to break down each
task into organized steps. Next, decide how long
it should take and who will do it. Then set a completion
date and stay on schedule.
PACE YOURSELF: In the beginning stages
of planning your wedding you have several major
areas to decide upon . . . don't try to tackle them
all at once. Try to accomplish one major job a day.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH: Eat right
and be sure to get enough rest and exercise. Take
advantage of time-tested soothers at night . . .
a hot bath, warm milk or a back rub.
You will keep stress under control if you allow
plenty of time to plan your wedding and then follow
through on your schedule in a timely manner.
